To review our base for a new life must be our identity in Christ Jesus. Take time to reflect on that truth. Who are you? At one time my identity included being a smoker. When I first tried to quit and someone asked me if I wanted a cigar I would say, “No thanks I’m quitting.” I would usually say that with a certain amount of pride in my willingness to change and get healthier. Sometimes those that I called friends at the time would feel judged and would make fun of me. Often, I would give in to the pressure and before the night was out, I would smoke at least one cigar but usually more. One day I was on the phone talking with a friend and I was unable to finish a sentence without taking a breath. I didn’t say anything out loud, but I decided when I hung up the phone that I was done with tobacco. Within minutes of hanging up the phone I had discarded all tobacco products and then went on a short run. Each day the runs got a bit longer and I felt better and better. Then the inevitable day came when I was again with so-called friends, playing cards and the smokers all lit up. I was offered a cigar and I replied, “I’m a nonsmoker.” My identity was redefined in that moment and when they teased me, I shrugged it off. Ultimately, I surrounded myself with people that would support my best interests.
With that identity firmly in place, and a North Star in place we can risk living a successful life. I don’t know about other people. But when I stood before family and friends and stated the vows that led to my marriage, I was committed to living a life with her. There was no wiggle room in that vow. I am certain that she would not have said yes if my commitment was 80% or 90% or even 99.9999%. My commitment to here was 100%. I had to be all in on this marriage. Now with more experience I realize the importance of that vow. There have been rough seasons and difficulty. If my vow had left an out, we likely would have taken it. The ideas of committing to anything is often dismissed. Many that I work with boldly swear (a vow) that they are telling the truth when they intend to lie. But a commitment is required as you forge a new life. This commitment starts with a vow. Below is my current vow that I write and recommit to every morning.
Today I will take up my cross and follow Him.
I can drink His cup.
Today I will speak life to myself and others.
I will speak truth in love.
Today I choose growth. I was designed to flourish and help my community to do the same.
Today I will love, pray for and do good to my enemies in expectation that we will become friends.
Today I will care for my whole self so that I will have the endurance, strength, wisdom, and passion to make the world better.
Today I will persevere in battle of die trying.
Today I declare allegiance to King Jesus.
